Author Susan Patton, known as the “Princeton Mom,” told CNN that the modern definition of rape holds no water because “most times women can simply get up and leave.”
Yes, she actually said that. Patton was referring to a specific kind of rape, as though any form of sexual assault were OK. She was talking about college girls getting drunk and being raped, placing the blame squarely on the victim and basically encouraging young men to aid in the life skills education of their female class-mates:
What makes this so particularly prickly is the definition of rape. It no longer is when a woman is violated at the point of a gun or a knife. We’re now talking about or identifying as rape what really is clumsy hook-up melodrama or a fumbled attempt at a kiss or a caress.
This is with a friend, this is in your own home.
Patton’s naive view of rape is baffling. Sexual assault isn’t described as something that happens at knife-point, sexual assault is when someone forces themselves on someone else without their consent, or while they’re debilitated.
Patton’s stupidity continues:
It makes one wonder, why do you not just get up and leave? Or why do you not as a woman tell a man who’s making advances that, ‘You know what, stop, leave.’
Well, silly, women do tell men that, and when the men don’t listen and assault them, that’s called rape. There’s also the situation where men get women drunk, making it so they can’t leave and don’t have control of their faculties. When they then, without consent, have sex with them, that’s called rape.
Patton repeatedly said she isn’t blaming the victims. It kinda sounds like she is:
There’s rape, and then there’s rape. I believe that she experienced something that she regretted. I believe that she got very drunk, and had sex with a man that she regretted the next morning. To me, that’s not a crime. That’s not rape. That’s a learning experience.
A learning experience? Sex has to be consensual, otherwise it’s rape, period. Anyone who thinks a man intent on getting his way by any means necessary won’t use alcohol or drugs to disable his victim is a fool. These cases are called rape because the woman reports that she said no.
No means no. No doesn’t mean “I’m looking to learn a healthy life lesson, please ply me with more liquor until I can’t move and have your way with me.”
Get a clue, Princeton Mom.
Watch this video from CNN:
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