Many years ago, I saw the Pretenders in concert. Musically, the concert was great, but the lead singer of the band, Chrissie Hynde, put a very bad taste in the mouths of many in the audience when she chastised us for not loving the warm-up band, which was led by her then-husband, Jim Kerr of Simple Minds.
She also took an unwelcome jab at her ex, Kinks front man, Ray Davies, when she dedicated the song “Stop Sobbing” – which was written by him – to him. The gesture was clearly one of mocking their very public breakup, in which she dumped him for Kerr.
After that show, Hynde turned from a woman I admired to a very flawed woman but one with a lot of talent. As for the Davies breakup, after the concert, the audience’s sympathy was with him.
Hynde, as shown by that concert so many decades ago, has never shied away from controversy, nor has she played the role of the die hard progressive rock star. While she is a strict vegan and animal rights activist, the ‘tough chick in pleather’ only looks like a feminist icon. In reality, she couldn’t care less about feminism and on Monday, she she went way too far for feminists when she blamed rape on the victims.
When Hynde was just 21, she was a victim of a brutal rape. It’s normal and even expected that victims of rape blame themselves and Hynde did. But she went further and blamed other victims of rape for wearing the wrong clothing:
“You know if you don’t want to entice a rapist, don’t wear high heels so you can’t run from him,” she said, in an interview in the Sunday Times.
The Pretenders singer, 63, said she takes “full responsibility” after she was sexually assaulted aged 21 in Ohio.
“If I’m walking around in my underwear and I’m drunk. Who else’s fault can it be?” Hynde told Krissi Murison.
In her recently completed autobiography, Reckless, Hynde recounts how she was forced to perform sexual acts on members of an Ohio motorcycle gang who had promised to take her to a party, but instead took her to an abandoned house.
“Technically speaking, however you want to look at it, this was all my doing and I take full responsibility,” said the singer, who recalled being high on drugs at the time.
“If I’m walking around and I’m very modestly dressed and I’m keeping to myself and someone attacks me, then I’d say that’s his fault. But if I’m being very lairy and putting it about and being provocative, then you are enticing someone who’s already unhinged – don’t do that. Come on! That’s just common sense.”
“I don’t think I am saying anything controversial, am I?” she concluded.
Naturally, feminists balked at her comments.
“Victims of sexual violence should never feel or be made to feel that they were responsible for the appalling crime they suffered, regardless of circumstances or factors which may have made them particularly vulnerable,’’ said Lucy Hastings, the director of the group Victim Support.
Source: Fox News
Of course, Chrissie really doesn’t care about what feminists say. In 2006, when asked about whether there was a lack of female rockers, she said to Billboard Magazine:
I don’t care. I couldn’t care less. I’m not a feminist. I’ve never been rooting for women. I’ve never cared about women or men. I care about you, because you’re sitting here talking to me, and I care about me. I’m not here trying to save anybody or tell them what to do.
Well, except tell women how to dress and that a woman should take responsibility for the fact that a man brutally forces himself upon her.
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